@demonofthegreatwhitenorth Its great to jump on and ask the questions first. So @tallcanadian has been very accurate in his responses to your questions.
about a year ago i answered a similar post from a woman the same age. It was more daunting at that time for the concerns you expressed - i can tell you it seems to have improved greatly. More female staff around, clearer expectations on appropriate behaviour, all that. They will kick people out and even ban. But its more assuring to know that you won't encounter it at all, I'm sure. I know my most recent visit, a woman i knew went into the steam room alone to check it out - some men asked she wanted to play (thats normal), and one asked if she minded him masturbating etc. But no touching or groping or worse. So I think the same as I've always thought - going alone as a woman seems daunting for any age or experience level. There's just a lot to get used to.
Its exciting to think about the sexually-charged environment though and new experiences, and no one wants you or others to get scared off. I always suggest finding a buddy, a partner, a chaperone. This can happen in a few ways.
The young woman i met last year, we suggested she connect with some people offline so she can "vet" her potential partners, rather than navigate the place and also hope to find someone to play with. You can even create a new account on snap or kik or telegram or a new gmail account just for this purpose, temporary, and share it. Then you have a chance to get a sense of who you trust. In my case, I first accompanied the woman with no strings attached or expectations, so she could be relaxed there.
Or perhaps just by convo on this thread you might found someone of interest. You can ask someone to either meet you there, or meet just outside the door, and make it clear if you want them to just be your wingman, or if you may or may not feel like playing. You should get your own room, and they can get a locker, so you have control over your space and environment at any time in the night. The staff are always there for you.
I would actually suggest Thursday night or Saturday, as the rooms are cheaper/free for women (check schedule). thursdays are slower and less intimidating, but Saturdays are hopping, a bit nervous, but more to choose from. Again, you could use offline contact to maybe arrange a potential hookup, or wingman, or you could roll the dice on your night.
Regardless - its normal to be nervous. I know lots of people who took a long time to work up to it, even sit outside in their car for an hour first, lol.
I haven't heard of STIs - if you get to the point of that level of play, consent is always king in these places, and you can clearly say what you want, and what you expect. You control everything that happens for you.
Good luck. If you want to contact me with more questions just let me know and i can provide it.
Posted : 30/03/2025 7:51 pm