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(@demonofthegreatwhitenorth)
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Hi everyone,

I have multiple questions.

First and foremost - safe sex. Has anyone had experiences where males refused to wear condoms, said they would, but didn’t? Has anyone contracted an STD/STI from anyone at an event, or heard of anyone who has? Any other lingering concerns of that genre? Please share them, as I need to be prepared. (Please share any experiences with females as well, I am primarily interested in men, but it would help me get a feel for the culture.)

Secondly, if instances of inappropriate behaviour (such as above) occur, are the members/guests banned for life? What measures are taken to ensure safety and consent? 

Do you need to show that you’re clean via bloodwork in advance to get in? 

What’s the general age of people who come to the club? I have no issues with a silver fox, but meeting someone closer to my age would also be nice. 

Finally, I’m looking to have some no-strings attached fun, with someone more experienced, preferably male. 

Thanks in advance. 

 

 
Posted : 30/03/2025 3:53 pm
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TallCanadian
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Always a good idea to have a spotter who you trust to make sure everyone is following your wishes when it comes to condoms. 
staff is definitely better if inappropriate behaviour is occurring and yes people have been banned for life. A clean test is not required to enter the building but some members who play their required the partners to provide one ahead of time to be added to play list. As for the age it really varies on any given day but I find more young people show up on Mondays. Always recommended for females to get a room at a point incase they need a place to get away from or are not interested in being watched. If anyone does anything inappropriate like touching without asking of making you feel uncomfortable by stalking you report them immediately to staff cause it’s not allowed. Hopefully this helps a bit. I’m sure other will comment as well incase I missed something 

 
Posted : 30/03/2025 4:14 pm
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thisguy
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@demonofthegreatwhitenorth Its great to jump on and ask the questions first.  So @tallcanadian has been very accurate in his responses to your questions. 

about a year ago i answered a similar post from a woman the same age. It was more daunting at that time for the concerns you expressed - i can tell you it seems to have improved greatly. More female staff around, clearer expectations on appropriate behaviour, all that. They will kick people out and even ban. But its more assuring to know that you won't encounter it at all, I'm sure. I know my most recent visit, a woman i knew went into the steam room alone to check it out - some men asked she wanted to play (thats normal), and one asked if she minded him masturbating etc. But no touching or groping or worse. So I think the same as I've always thought - going alone as a woman seems daunting for any age or experience level. There's just a lot to get used to. 

Its exciting to think about the sexually-charged environment though and new experiences, and no one wants you or others to get scared off. I always suggest finding a buddy, a partner, a chaperone. This can happen in a few ways. 

The young woman i met last year, we suggested she connect with some people offline so she can "vet" her potential partners, rather than navigate the place and also hope to find someone to play with. You can even create a new account on snap or kik or telegram or a new gmail account just for this purpose, temporary, and share it. Then you have a chance to get a sense of who you trust. In my case, I first accompanied the woman with no strings attached or expectations, so she could be relaxed there. 

Or perhaps just by convo on this thread you might found someone of interest. You can ask someone to either meet you there, or meet just outside the door, and make it clear if you want them to just be your wingman, or if you may or may not feel like playing. You should get your own room, and they can get a locker, so you have control over your space and environment at any time in the night. The staff are always there for you. 

I would actually suggest Thursday night or Saturday, as the rooms are cheaper/free for women (check schedule). thursdays are slower and less intimidating, but Saturdays are hopping, a bit nervous, but more to choose from.  Again, you could use offline contact to maybe arrange a potential hookup, or wingman, or you could roll the dice on your night. 

Regardless - its normal to be nervous. I know lots of people who took a long time to work up to it, even sit outside in their car for an hour first, lol. 

I haven't heard of STIs - if you get to the point of that level of play, consent is always king in these places, and you can clearly say what you want, and what you expect. You control everything that happens for you. 

Good luck. If you want to contact me with more questions just let me know and i can provide it. 

 

 
Posted : 30/03/2025 7:51 pm
Hotmexxx
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No means no and for you first time  I recomend  not to post unless you want a float of man showing  just for tender meat 😬 there's always the chance you can choose who you play with


 

 
Posted : 30/03/2025 10:03 pm
Kruppe369
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@demonofthegreatwhitenorth I am 24 as well and am interested in popping by steamworks sometime! Id be happy to chat to get to know you and discuss expectations on email or telegram. You can reach me at kruppe369@protonmal.com or @kruppe369. Hope to see you soon 🙂

 
Posted : 31/03/2025 1:47 pm
Jyegnewguy
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Hi. I am new and I am nervous also with woman above who made the post. I want to ensure safe play and make sure I have the say if I wanna engage with someone 

 
Posted : 17/04/2025 8:26 pm
cs3475
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In addition what everyone above has said, if you decide to go, some things to bring with you to improve your visit are cash, flip flops, and maybe something comfortable to walk around in.

They have an ATM at the front door you can use, but Steamworks is cash only.

Once inside, some people go barefoot and some wear foot wear, most commonly flip flops. I believe they also have some for sale if you want them 

There isn’t really a dress code (except for maybe theme night), they just ask you don’t walk around fully clothed, so you aren’t confused with staff. Some people just wear the towel provided, but I’ve seen people wear bath robes, lingerie, or nothing at all. A very friendly and knowledgeable regular, @7inchwondercock, only wears a black leather vest. 

 
Posted : 18/04/2025 2:36 pm
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this is good to know. I have been lurking for a while on this forum to see if this is the place I should visit. 

 
Posted : 22/04/2025 10:05 pm
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Posted : 22/04/2025 10:09 pm
thisguy
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@senjen well I hope you've been getting good information. it can take a lot to push us over the line and actually go do it. i know i sat in the car for a long time out front before going in my first time.

feel free to ask questions with no pressure. or pick someone to reach out to privately if you prefer to ask without inviting a dozen weird responses 😉

 
Posted : 22/04/2025 10:57 pm
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Didn’t know we were allowed to post a phone number 

 
Posted : 23/04/2025 5:17 am

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