I feel like the topic of consent and expectations needs to be addressed by the adults in the room following last Saturday.
I have been coming to SteamWorks since January, I've been about 7-8 times now. Saturday night was the first time that I felt unsafe at times at SteamWorks. I feel that the ladies nooner got a lot of men overly excited to get their dicks wet and set up some pretty high expectations for male newcomers and regulars alike.
I'm going to share my experiences below and what I would have preferred. I hope some other ladies that read this share their negative experiences and preferences as well. Here's to hoping this can be a "productive conversation".
1. There were two gentlemen, a black man around 5"10, with glasses, slim/average bill with thinning hair, and an overweight white man with black hair and black beard. They were following me everywhere and hanging around my door. I tried to lose them on more than 3 occasions taking random turns and hiding in groups of people. They continued to follow me until I went to a friend's room (209) and shut the door in their faces. They did not take the hint as the white male began knocking on the door. I let them have it at that point and explained in no uncertain terms that I have no relationship with them and that is creepy that they're stalking me. I told them to vamoose or I'd be contacting staff to have them removed. I caught the black male following me again twice but when he saw me looking at him he'd run off. The next time we run into one another I'll be reporting him for stalking me. The white male apologized outside the club when he was driving away.
2. I was in room 306, and frequently went in there with my boyfriend to get away from the men following me. There is a male glory hole, which was constantly being knocked on all night. By 11pm I couldn't stand it anymore being constantly knocked at. I exited my room and banged on the glory hole room door and asked the short, skinny black male inside why he had closed the door. He responded that he wanted privacy. I asked him why he thought I had shut my door. He said he didn't know. So I asked him again why he closed the door, again he said for privacy. I asked AGAIN, why he thought I'd closed my door. He finally connected the two ideas and suggested perhaps I wanted privacy as well. I congratulated him for the increase in function of his prefrontal cortex, told him to fuck off and returned to my room. He didn't knock again, but had he, I would have reported him.
3. I went to Fuck Alley to the GB room with the boyfriend. I was followed by a herd of men, my boyfriend left to use the washroom. After 5-10 minutes of attempting to play, I realised that all of the men around me had soft, limp dicks. Some had condoms draped over them. Of 8 men, only one man had an erection. The rest were trying to get their gross soft cocks on my face or fuck me with their limp dicks, it was disgusting. I felt dirty and disrespected and used. I waited for an opportunity to escape, grabbed my towel and ran out of the room. All the men were clueless and shocked to why I ran out. I had realised they had all already cum and were done for the night. This experience wasn't about having a mutually enjoyable time, I was being used like an object and it was disgusting. Who knows if I'll ever return to my favorite room at the club after that.
4. I had various men approach me all evening asking to come and fuck me in my private room, without so much as a hello, how are you? It felt dirty and whore-ish. Like I was a piece of meat. I felt like I couldn't leave my room without being harrassed incessantly.
I feel that there needs to be a sign made outlaying the rules of how to treat women and that stalking them is not okay. Knocking on glory holes or doors is not okay. Touching without clear, verbal consent is not okay. This needs to be a SAFE environment for women to attend, so more women will actually attend. There needs to be a policy that if a woman feels she needs to go to staff to complain about you, you're removed immediately and banned for a period of time. We women deserve to feel safe and that we have the RIGHT TO CHOOSE what experience we want to have. This is not a fuck free for all and that needs to be made explicitly clear to men if this business is going to be successful.
Ladies, please comment your experiences below so we may all feel heard, understood and valued. Please consider what we have to say, Jim!
Posted : 25/04/2023 8:54 am