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Any advice or tips, me the wife is nevrous as fcuk...

Posted : 21/04/2023 6:31 pm
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Just go. Socialize. Hot tub is great for that. (no sex allowed in tub). Main things are respect. And no means no. 


Posted : 21/04/2023 6:34 pm
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Only do what you’re comfortable with, we’ve found there’s never any pressure to do anything. Many of our visits are spent just people watching and playing with ourselves when we’re there. Good idea to get a private room so you have somewhere to escape from every thing if you need a break. 
Have fun, hope we see you there sometime. 

Posted : 21/04/2023 6:47 pm
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Get a room, go for a soak in the hot tub, dry in the sauna, walk around to get your bearings, get a feel for the place and enjoy! Welcome to SW! 

Posted : 23/04/2023 11:57 am
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hey There. We are a good looking married couple who will be there this Saturday April 29th. We have been about 6 times and love it. We would love to see you there 

Posted : 26/04/2023 1:09 am
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hey There. We are a good looking married couple who will be there this Saturday April 29th. We have been about 6 times and love it. We would love to see you there 

Posted : 26/04/2023 1:09 am
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Get your own room so you have a home base where you can take a breather and control the traffic when the need arises. Mingling areas are a great way to chat with people first and establish a connection that goes a little bit beyond, "Let's fuck" (meeting people this way will also probably help get your wife at ease). Then once you find people you like in the mingling area, take them back to your room and figure out the rest. Have fun!


P.S. - if she's REALLY nervous, try going on a regular weeknight when it's less busy just to get an idea what it's like inside (Not Fridays though, those are for men only). That being said, someone above suggested coming on the 29th. I'm also planning on being there that night and would absolutely LOVE to play with a couple, but a heads up, it will likely be pretty busy.


Welcome! 🙂

Posted : 26/04/2023 1:25 am
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The mingling areas are a nice way without any immediate expectations of anything where the two of you can sit and chat with others.  When I've been here with my wife we've spent time chatting and getting to know individuals with no pressure.

Also if she is nervous she can wear some lingerie or have a robe, doesn't have to just have the towel that is provided.  Oh don't forget to bring some flip flops/sandals so you don't have to walk around barefoot.

Posted : 26/04/2023 7:20 am
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Did you peeps ever make it down? I feel the nervous-ness. My first time was difficult! 


However I can't wait to go again... Would definitely love to hang out/meet up with a couple or someone instead of cruising solo 😉

Feel free to shoot me a kik or email :p

Posted : 26/04/2023 10:24 am
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Hello we are also a black couple, we are planning to go Sunday May 21 maybe we will see you there 

Posted : 21/05/2023 12:29 am
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Hi. How are you. I don't have advice to give but would like to meet and play with you two. Send me an email and set up a day to meet and hopefully play. Chat and trade pics if interested.

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Posted : 22/05/2023 11:54 pm
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Good morning, Black couple,

Useful suggestions all around.

I wish to underscore two points: getting a room (as a much needed space to relax and compose yourself), and not shying away from letting people know that you are not comfortable with a particular thing.

As for suggestions, visiting on a weekday for a nooner might not be a bad start: less busy and less intimidating. Tuesday and/or Wednesday nooners seem to be best time to try this out.

If you desire to chat about all and any of this, my email address is in my profile.



Posted : 23/05/2023 5:50 am
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My email is in the profile info. It would be great to chat.



Posted : 23/05/2023 5:53 am

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