I wonder if anyone else feels the same. I used to frequent this place often, mostly when it was all male with Saturday or Sunday being mixed. I do like the idea of it being a mixed place now. My issue that has been stopping me from going lately is there seems to be a clique now with certain regulars and one or two people who think they are the police and are ever so important. I used to come here and feel free and open to explore things.
I'm shy in general and I don't go to this place to make friends and chat and sit in the hot tub and so on, it's not a social scene for me. I go to hook up, have some fun, get some people off and leave. I miss Times Square since it burnt down, because you could do that at that place, walk in, not say a word and get down to business without worrying about some overzealous person flexing.
Now I feel like steamworks cliquey and certain people want to police everyone or show how authoritative they can be. I understand people needing to feel safe, especially the women and there are a few creeps around I have seen it myself. That being said, I feel like if I go and don't chat with people or if I hit on someone, in a respectful way of course, and I'm not chatty or don't do it in a specific way, I'm going to be berated. And I'm not talking about groping and I know, no means no, if someone says no, or not interested, I move on.
This place used to feel like a place to go and lose your inhibitions. Now I feel like I'll be judged or talked down to if I make one wrong move and don't do something perfect. It's not a place I feel good about going to anymore and I want to support Jim and the business because it's a unique place. I just struggle with the feeling like there are gate keepers there now just waiting to be assholes.
I haven't personally had any of this happen to me, other than one staff member giving me shit for wearing bike shorts that showed my cock outline rather than wearing a towel. I am very respectful to people but quiet and shy and may come off as ignoring or unfriendly because I'm not a talker. I react to the come hither glance or look and not the chat. I feel on edge about going there now because of some of the chats I have seen on here and the vibe I get from them.
Anyway just voicing my thoughts and I do wish success for this place.
In my experience, even recently with the growing group of people whome I believe with Jims blessing have been striving to make it a place where Women and everyone else feels safe. I find the "look" ... The "hand graze" on the leg and the "cum hither" gestures work just as well as they ever did. Fridays have been reserved for the Men only, and the atmosphere harkens back to the days you've mentioned... and pretty much every single nooner.
As for the self appointed "police". The reason you've never been bothered is the same as why I've not been, nor 99% of the attendees. We all show the proper respect, necessary to keep Steamworks an enjoyable place to fulfill wants, needs, and fantasies.
I've not seen nor heard of anyone placing themselves above the rest and willfully or not causing interference, to anyone following the basic rules of conduct.
There are some wether part of a larger group or not, who deem the social aspect important to them. Mostly the single ladies and couples. If this isn't what you're into or looking for, I guarentee they will never bother you. Just as they would expect you to not bother them. And there is no rules stating the old silent communication won't work for them either.
Try this ... Talk to Stag, about putting up a post pinned as a guide. List out all the old silent communication tactics we used to use.
But most of all, don't stop supporting Jim. Your only accomplishment, will be depriving yourself of a safe secure place, to anonymously hook up.
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