I went down last friday and I had an experience that made me feel uncomfortable while I was in Fuck Alley there was a guy that just wouldn't leave me alone, I was constantly telling him no, swatting his hand away, and moving away from him every time he tried to make out with me only to have him continue to try and stroke me or kiss me. The guy that I was focusing on also kept trying to swat him away because he could tell I was getting uncomfortable, eventually I ended up leaving and because Fuck alley is so dark and I don't have great eyesight to begin with I didn't get to see his face very well and didn't feel comfortable telling the attendant about this experience because if I can't identify the person who wouldn't leave me alone then what would be the point? I didn't want to accuse some random stranger and get them wrongfully kicked out. Steamworks is a great place but please if you're going down remember that "no" or "im not interested" comes in more than just those words, if you have someone telling you "No" while also moving away from you when you try to get handsy with them, or moving away from you when you try to make out with them then maybe use your context clues, no means no, and having someone actively trying to get away from you while you try to make out with them also means no
Hey thanks for your comments. This has been an ongoing problem and we do have a plan to reduce or eliminate these behaviors. Please don't let that discourage you for future visits. We are working on it.
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@jimb its definitely not gonna stop me from coming back I love the atmosphere I just might stay away from fuck alley until that problem can be resolved
I also had a few episodes with an individual last Friday. My door was open and this fellow rushed into my room and went to shut the door and grab my cock at the same time. Happened so fast, I almost smoked him in the head, purely reactionary. I quickly grabbed the door before it closed, and smacked his hand off my cock while getting up off the bed. I then realized how much smaller he was than me and held off anything physical but loudly said ‘get out’. He left without delay. Later I had 5 guys in my room (great time guys, you know who you are) and unbelievably this twerp weasels his way into the room and again and goes for my cock. I smacked his hand away and looked at him and said, ‘what you did earlier wasn’t cool, and next time he tries that on me or someone else the outcome could be much more unpleasant’. I know I should have reported this, but it was a Friday night, and like most Canadians I didn’t want make a scene about this. I’d prefer letting my cock do that. Sorry, tension break with humour. Anyways, some of the other guys I’d ‘spoken’ with that night also had run ins with this same guy. So if by chance you’re registered in Steamtalk, and you see this message, I’ll be on the lookout for you. If I find out you’re continuing in this unwanted manner, rest assured I’ll connect with Patrick or his staff and alert them to you.
As a side note, I’d read that some women have been encountering unwanted attentions and behaviours from some of us men (roving hands, stealthing, etc.). As I love women's attentions too, I wouldn’t hesitate to provide a safe space wherever and whenever that may be. I’d be upset if any person felt they couldn’t experience whatever desires they wished at Steamworks. Either because they felt unsafe and no longer attended Steamworks or they chose not to experience their full desires due to feeling unsafe. So come on guys, if you want women to come (in all ways) we’ve got to create a space they feel safe to do so. Ok, I’m off my soapbox.
I do apologize for my possible misuse of gender pronouns and how some persons may feel slighted. That is not my intent. I respect and support diversity and inclusivity. I just need a little training. Maybe some person out there could ‘school’ me in proper diction.
Be kind and enjoy.
@lumberjack I wonder if it was the same guy because holy hell I had to keep pushing this guy off of me and didnt feel comfortable having my door open when I was changing because I was afraid that exact thing would happen
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